Hello, how are you getting on with your emotions? Have you had any questions since the start of this series? I’d like to give you the opportunity to ask them, and to do so you can reply to this e-mail. I promise to answer them personally! Today, let’s take a look at the third article in this series: “Emotions (3): a resource”. Emotions aren’t there to overwhelm you, they’re there to help you. When we let our emotions overwhelm us, we lose control of our minds. As a result, we find ourselves in an environment conducive to error, fragility and the influence of things contrary to our will. We then repeat to ourselves, “I do not do the good I want, and I do the evil I do not want.” (Romans 7.19, The Bible) What often happens is that we interpret the situation with our own data. As a result, the situations we feel are not necessarily those we experience, but rather the image we have of them. For example, someone you care about goes on a trip, doesn’t send you a message, and you think: “She’s not thinking about me”. This reveals your insecurity, as we all do. However, it could also be true that she’s worried because she can’t get in touch with you due to the lack of a network, the absence of an intimate environment, or that she’s been trying to reach you and your phone has crashed (I sometimes receive call or message notifications up to 48 hours later). The first interpretation can lead to emotions that are harmful to you and your morale if you let yourself be overwhelmed by them. So choose instead to condition yourself and turn your emotions into a boost that will enthuse you and lead you to be proactive and re-examine situations in a healthier way. How do you go about it? Ask yourself about the emotion you’re feeling that’s bothering you, and decide which one you’d like to feel: energy, joy, peace, calm, etc.
Think of a situation or experience in which you have felt, and usually feel, the desired emotion
Close your eyes and review the situation or experience, allowing yourself to become imbued with the emotion
With this in mind, move on to the current situation, gradually integrating the elements into it. Steps 3 and 4 may have to be repeated several times before you are able to approach the situation with the desired emotion, but once you’ve acquired it, it will help you to stay on top of your emotions and condition yourself emotionally. Once you’ve done this, re-examine the situation with the desired emotion and analyze the different possibilities and perspectives. I’m sure you’ll be able to live with it much more healthily afterwards. Emotions thus become a real resource to help you progress!
Emotions are a real force, and when they’re not, “if you want to move on, you first have to understand why you’re feeling these emotions, and why you don’t need to feel them anymore” (Mitch Albom). (Mitch Albom) In our next Newsletter we’ll look at how to maintain a healthy attitude and behavior despite strong emotions, to make sure you don’t miss out, be sure to sign up by clicking on “I’m signing up!” at the end of this article. You can also follow us and share this article on social networks: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and enjoy our news.
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You are wonderful!
Joachim Fontaine
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