Hello, Last time we saw a whole article about couples. If you’re single, you may have thought: that’s none of my business! But I encourage you to keep all these things in mind, because they’ll come in handy one day. Being prepared means doing things beforehand! Nevertheless, we haven’t forgotten about you, and this week we wanted to add an article to this series especially dedicated to you if you’re single. A lot of people ask me the question: How can I live my single life well, and how can I choose the right partner? We’ll try to answer them in a few lines… First of all, being single isn’t a blemish or a leprosy stain on your life. Many people idealize life as a couple, thinking it’s great and imagining themselves in the world of Care Bears. But married life also has its challenges. I’m very romantic by nature; I love romance, but I’m not naive. Even if I cultivate the “Care Bear world”, I never forget that I’m not in it. Wanting a partner for these reasons is not a good motivation. The couple is sincerely wonderful to live with, but it also entails several constraints. Being single is a good time to accomplish certain things that are more difficult to do as a couple.
So here are a few things to prepare for while you’re single: Becoming spiritually, emotionally and relationally healthy
Realizing that no one can make you happy
Defining the direction you want to go in: your vision
Getting to know yourself
Developing a balanced and healthy inner circle (family, friends) that will surround you once you’re a couple If you don’t take care of this beforehand, you’ll have great difficulties once you’re a couple. Here are a few tips to help you find the right partner: Don’t cultivate unrealistic expectations: your partner is not God. He or she will accompany you as a partner, support you and love you, but will in no way be responsible for your happiness.
Look for someone who is already an adult, happy, productive, confident, positive and in good spiritual, emotional and relational health.
Look for someone who also displays a living faith and is anchored in Christ
Take the time to build a good friendship with the person, don’t rush things
Ask yourself: how does he/she deal with anger? Wounds? Does he/she tend to procrastinate? Finally, talk together about the desired direction and vision. If you’re not going in the same direction, you’ll be at some point a very long way from this person. Two different visions are the literal definition of division. So make sure you’re in sync and moving in the same direction. Here you go!
In our next Newsletter, we’ll look together at a few keys to understanding your children better and guiding them towards the best! Even if you’re not there yet, pay attention to these tips, they’ll help you understand a lot. To make sure you don’t miss out, be sure to sign up by clicking on “I subscribe” at the end of this article. You can also follow us and share our page on social networks: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and thus benefit from our news by letting others know about it.
See you soon,
You are wonderful!
Joachim Fontaine
Coach | Consultant | Formateur
