Hello, How do you react when someone hurts you? When a situation annoys you? When you feel that nothing is possible anymore… In times of trial, your attitude will determine your altitude after the ordeal. Whether in emotional, relational, material or any other area, it’s a truth that will help you emerge from the ordeal quicker, healthier and more mature. Let’s take just a few examples: material matters: when you’re going through difficult times, you have the choice between saying to yourself “I’m not going to get through this any more anyway” or “Here’s what I’ve got left, it’s not much, but if I manage it properly, I’ll be able, step by step, to make it bear fruit and turn it into a healthy situation”. It’s your choice, but your attitude will determine whether tomorrow you’ll be over-indebted or whether you’ll find yourself back in a healthy, balanced situation Emotional domain: when you’re going through emotionally difficult times, you have the choice between letting yourself go and being overwhelmed by circumstances, or stepping back, focusing on your vision and drawing a lesson that will turn this ordeal into a strength. It’s your choice, but your attitude will determine whether tomorrow you’ll be in a depression or in a growth dynamic, stronger than the day before, creating change around you by helping many others. When people hurt you, you have the choice between seizing the stones thrown at you to make a wall to protect yourself or to make a bridge to help many others through this type of ordeal and, in some cases, the re-establishment of a relationship. It’s your choice, but your attitude will determine whether tomorrow you’ll be isolated or surrounded by precious people. These are just a few examples that we could develop into a much longer list, but I think they’re enough to convey the idea that just as your choices during the ordeal determine your attitude afterwards, it’s your perception of the ordeal that will determine your actions during it. The ordeal can be endured as something insurmountable, or viewed as a teacher of many fields. I’m not saying that going through times of discouragement, low morale or fatigue is abnormal – it’s perfectly normal – but staying there is abnormal. I like the phrase so elegantly put by Joyce Meyer, and I invite you to keep it in mind: “A beautiful personality is built, not by taking the easy way out and doing what’s convenient, but by doing what’s our responsibility, whether it’s difficult or not”. Your attitude will always be your responsibility, and you have the choice between cultivating your beautiful personality or degrading and deteriorating it through your attitude. Even if it seems difficult or out of place, always make sure you finish the race with your head held high, no matter what happened during the race. In the midst of the ordeal we have the impression that it’s an eternal situation that puts an end to everything we’ve been able to overcome in the past and freezes us in an eternal state of immobility.
We naturally perceive the ordeal as a prison cell in which we are condemned for life and in which we will end our days. However, trials, like all situations, are subject to time, and time flies by at breakneck speed. The ordeal is a temporary situation, and your attitude, your choices and your actions during the ordeal will determine how long it lasts and the situation you find yourself in afterwards. In our next Newsletter, we’ll look at how to cultivate a positive attitude and maintain a dynamic atmosphere despite the circumstances. To make sure you don’t miss out, be sure to sign up by clicking on “I subscribe!” at the end of this article. You can also follow us and share this article on social networks: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and so enjoy our news. See you soon,
You’re wonderful!
Joachim Fontaine
Coach | Consultant | Trainer
