Hello, Do you ever get upset? The tension mounts, the pressure’s on, that’s when your nerves get the better of you and you end up wanting to explode. You dream of that moment when you can say what you want without fear or reprisal, but reality catches up with you and reason calms you down… or not! Oops. Conflicts and arguments usually happen at times when we least want them to: times when we need to start a meeting, times when we’re about to do something important to us – in short, times when the energy level and conditions are least favorable for dealing with the situation. I’m one of those people who hates conflict, but experience has taught me that it’s better to face it than to avoid it. How can I face it in a healthy way? It can be done
<< First name test >>But before we give you a few keys, it’s worth noting that you always have five options in the face of conflict:
Revenge
Escape
Avoidance
Compromise
Management The only way to deal with conflict in a healthy way is to manage it. Here are a few practical tips to help you manage tense situations: Dare to say that you’re not in a position to respond right away if this is the case, and suggest another, more favorable moment. It’s sometimes better to give emotions time to calm down, so as to open up a fruitful discussion Accept to question yourself and try to understand the other person’s point of view by listening to him or her Don’t use accusatory words or language, as they say, “you” kills, so prefer to express your feelings and perceptions in the first person Accept that everyone is different, and that we can all have a different point of view Always remember that the relationship takes precedence over opinion, and use your love for others, experienced in the field, who will try to help you resolve the conflict Finally, if it persists, accept the disagreement and the positioning of the person’s choice In any case, it’s always a good idea to surround yourself with several trusted advisers, more experienced in the field in question. I used to think that the only way out of a conflict was to reconcile and re-establish trust in every respect. However, this would go against everyone’s freedom of choice. You cannot and must not choose for others, but also go against who you are for the sake of others. Doing so will sooner or later lead you back into conflict, after a period of frustration, discomfort and a strong feeling of contempt for yourself. You’re a wonderful person, with exceptional abilities and as valuable as anyone else. We’re all different and it’s important to accept that, but it’s only by being yourself that you’ll attract the right people around you. You can establish relationships with anyone, but choose wisely who you connect with, because it’s the people you connect with who will determine and play a role in your destiny and its fulfillment. In our next Newsletter, we’ll look at how your attitude determines your altitude. To make sure you don’t miss out, be sure to sign up by clicking on “I subscribe!” at the end of this article. You can also follow us and share this article on social networks: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and so enjoy our news. See you soon,
You’re wonderful!
Joachim Fontaine
Coach | Consultant | Trainer
