Hello, Devaluation, burn-out, loss of self-confidence, conflict, opposition… all these are consequences of a lack of limits. This may seem paradoxical to you, since most of us don’t dare say “no” to avoid conflict and opposition, and think that saying “yes” will guarantee peace and unity. There are three main reasons why people refuse to say no: fear, beliefs and lack of self-esteem and self-confidence. Paul Coelho said: “When you say yes to others, make sure you don’t say no to yourself”. We teach them to say yes or other words, but you’ll find that very quickly they know how to say no without even explaining it to them. But when you’re trying to please everyone, you lose yourself, your self-assurance and your self-confidence, and you surround yourself with the wrong people. Saying no allows you to reveal your personal value.
<< First name test >>You are a person of great value, with assets and qualities that no one else possesses. Your responsibility is to develop these so that a light is spread all around you. You are that light! Daring to say no when you think no will help you avoid exhaustion, develop your self-confidence, gain self-confidence while protecting you from manipulative or abusive behavior and helping you deal with confrontation in a healthy way. Here are 3 keys to saying no in a healthy way: Say no to the idea, not the person: feelings of rejection are a major factor in conflict. So make sure the person understands that you’re not rejecting them by valuing them and letting them know that their idea doesn’t match your expectations or directions. Express your motivation in his or her interest: one of the questions most frequently asked by the individual is “why? To avoid later conflicts or tension in the relationship, let the person know that you are refusing in his or her interest. You could, for example, explain that you won’t be able to fulfill their request properly because you’re short of time and want it to be done right. Conclude creatively: saying no doesn’t mean you can’t help the person. So be creative in your response to encourage them, look for a solution or point them in the direction of someone who can help. This will certainly help more than you think. Saying no is an art to be mastered. It’s a useful and necessary art that can be learned. Daring to assert oneself can expose us to conflict, but as John C. Maxwell says, setting limits is “learning to say ‘no’ to the good in order to say ‘yes’ to the best”. In our next Newsletter, we’ll look at how to deal with opposition and conflict. To make sure you don’t miss out, be sure to subscribe by clicking on “I subscribe!” at the end of this article. You can also follow us and share this article on social networks: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and so enjoy our news. See you soon,
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Joachim Fontaine
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